Friday, June 19, 2015

Together we stand

 I was going to write about " forgiveness" but my heart is just too heavy to ignore the way I feel about this current situation. Although, I will cover the topic "forgiveness" in my next blogpost, I want to express my thoughts and opinions because we do not know what tomorrow has in store for us. To the matter on ground, I am so sick and tired of living in constant fear. I am tired of turning on my television to a berserk news of how colored people are being maltreated,executed,assasinated,arrested, and denied of their rights. "Colored people" does not mean black people in this context. I am generalizing the term "colored people" to qualify any skin color that is not white meaning that I am talking about those of us that are Mixed, Albinos, Caucasians and any other skin color other than white. Recent happenings have left me in a awe, it is annoying when I read a post,I check people's responses and read some people's comment that says "Must colored people always make a  reference to race", excuse me, if I as a black woman commits a crime and I get a different treatment from what a white woman that commits the same crime with me receives, I am definitely going to say the color of my skin played a huge role in determining our different treatments. One thing that we should all understand, this issue of "race" has been in play for a super long time.  So, it should not come as a surprise to anyone that colored people get different treatments from others but still, in this jet age, when the most powerful president is a black man, it is a shame that such is still happening.
    The justice system has been constructed in a way that it does not serve and protect colored people as it is supposed to. A recent happening, where four black parole officers who were carrying out their assignments were surrounded by armed white cops with their guns pointed at the four black parole officers tells that ones educational, financial, marital, or health status has nothing to do with the way you are treated, ones treatment by the society solely depends on the color of their skin. Most of the videos that I watch about cops manhandling people, I noticed that most of them resisted arrest, which is where we make mistakes. When you are being approached by a uniformed personnel, comply with them but still exercise your human rights like asking questions such as Am I under arrest? Do you have a warrant to search me? Am I being accused of a crime? in a well mannered way so as not to give them an excuse to turn you into a punching bag. Still, even if a person doesn't comply, I see no reason why force has to be exerted by the police. There are other ways to resolve issues of that nature that will not lead to death or the person being bed ridden. Wise up everybody!!!!! 
   Another concern, the police are doing theirs, some whites are doing theirs but what of us,colored people? I came home last night from school and I was told that my younger brother's school mate was shot to death when he was taking the trash out of his sister's apartment, I went on Facebook and I saw different news post about young black teenagers killed by guns or knives. Children are the leaders of tomorrow,right? Why do we not let these children grow? Why do we have to resolve everything with violence? We are a little fraction of this society, yet we are killing ourselves? Where in the world as violence resolved anything? I want to grow old, I want my siblings, and loved ones to grow old. It has become a daily prayer, I whisper to myself when I walk along the street, I say it when I look at the clock and my siblings and parent are not back by 7pm. I want to stop living in fear of losing someone I love to this barbaric act. We should all come together as one to put an end to this barbaric act. Peace and unity can go a long if we put it into practice, let us put aside hate and jealousy. Work on yourself as an individual, control your anger issues, fight the temptation of always resulting to violence and pray to God for guidance.


Monday, April 13, 2015

Bed of colors

    I remember an old friend making jest of my outfit about a year ago, it was an outfit I wore to a birthday party and his reason was because I wore a lot of colors making me look like a rainbow. According to him,the colors did not complement my skin tone but as at when he was saying it,I felt insulted. I guess that was one of the reasons why I decided to do a research on the different types of skin tones. Anyways, within the year I noticed that I started wearing  a lot of black, white, gray, nude,and burgundy (wine or mahogany) color based outfits. Of recent,I also noticed I veer to picking coral, peach, neon pink, and deep green colors when I want mix up my outfit but choosing these bright colors is because of the season {Spring has sprung!!!}. So, I can get away with wearing bright colors although I am no longer a fan of bright colors,thanks to my big mouth friend. Lesson of the day; understand or better still,
know your body and skin so as to know what suits you.

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Relationship: The new sexy

      I will try to be as modest and less vulgar as possible because I have been trying to avoid to write or talk about this particular issue, but no, I have to voice my opinion out to the world and I hope people adhere to what I am about to talk about. Women!!!!!! What is the new sexy? Is it having a Kim K's butt or Kylie Jenner's lips? Is it having a degree in your choice of course? Is it being an independent strong woman, be you black, white, mixed or whatever?
     Whenever I go on the internet, I do not get disappointed when it comes to seeing a video of women fighting each other either in groups or squads like they call it or individually, and people cheering the barbaric act. Sometimes, I wonder if these women actually think before they act, we tend to act out with slightest spark of ANGER, and the worse part, the people that are supposed to stop the fight, encourage it by hailing them and the most common one, take videos of it and upload it on social media. Tomorrow, you wonder why the male species do not have respect for some of us, you caused such disrespect and demeaning remarks from men especially those that lack proper upbringing. Has civilization not taught us that issues can be resolved amicably without fists throwing and hair pulling? It is sickening to see women resulting to violence over a man, or a pack of cigarettes, or who has a bigger butt.
    There is no greater achievement than empowering a fellow human be you a woman or a man. Generally, working with women can be tiring because of the tendency of her wanting to stand out, which is good if it is done without violence. Like a friend will say, there is nothing sexier than a woman that can sit her a** at home on a friday night. I am not saying we should live a boring life, or worst, wait on a man to provide our basic needs. I am sure no man wants to end up with a liability or an illiterate for a wife, get educated, start a business, start an organization,make a difference, do something worthwhile other than gossiping and fighting over unnecessary issues. I am a flawed woman, I have accepted my flaws, and I am working on being a better person. I am not doing all these because of a man or because I am in a competition with anyone, I am doing this because of ME, I want to look back at my life and say I DID THAT! Being an independent, intelligent, either book-wise or street-wise, strong woman is the new sexy.

Thursday, April 2, 2015

Resurrection of style!

   Welcome to this beautiful month that holds a lot of significance for us all 《April Fool's Day, Passover, Easter celebration, Palm Sunday, Birthdays, Weddings, Anniversaries, among other》. Spring has finally sprung windy city!  Wheew!! Finally!! As a lover of earth tone colors and bold colors, I am looking forward to how our fashion gods and goddesses are going to grace this beautiful season.
  Yesterday's weather was so lovely, I just had to step out with a friend and it was worth it. Anyways, i wanted a spring look but not too loud, and voila!! I found the perfect outfit, my outfit was inspired by the beautiful tumee_seepe!
Outfit details:
Top- 21Men
Midi skirt-Akira
White platform sandals-Forever21
Pair of glasses-Forever21